Do We Have the Right? How Polish Same-Sex Female Families Negotiate Turning Parenting Desires into Parenting Reality

Magdalena Wojciechowska

doi:10.18778/1733-8069.17.2.04

Autor

Magdalena Wojciechowska University of Lodz, Poland, Faculty of Economics and Sociology, Institute of Sociology, Department of Sociology of Organization and Management https://orcid.org/0000-0001-6375-422X

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.18778/1733-8069.17.2.04

Słowa kluczowe:

macierzyństwo nieheteronormatywne w Polsce, proces podejmowania decyzji o macierzyństwie, heteronormatywność jako rama znaczeń, nadawanie znaczenia, interakcjonizm symboliczny

Abstrakt

Celem artykułu jest refleksja na temat tego, jak odczytywanie zjawisk zachodzących na poziomie mikro i makro współkształtuje proces podejmowania decyzji o powiększeniu rodziny w przypadku jednopłciowych par kobiet w Polsce. Odnosząc się do wyników sześcioletnich badań z udziałem rodzin planowanych, koncentruję się na przedstawieniu doświadczeń kobiet na etapie myślenia o możliwości powiększenia rodziny w kontekście ich chęci „wpasowania” rodziny nieheteronormatywnej z dzieckiem w tkankę społeczną. Akcent położony jest na zilustrowanie tego, jak badane – działając w ramach niesprzyjających warunków społeczno-kulturowych – nadają swoim doświadczeniom na tym polu znaczenie, negocjując moralne prawo do zostania matkami. Jednocześnie analizie poddane zostają ukontekstualizowane czynniki interakcyjne, które wpływają na myślenie o macierzyństwie nieheteronormatywnym w kategoriach możliwości. A zatem przybliżane jest to, w jaki sposób jednostki wychodzące poza umowną ramę heteronormatywności podejmują decyzję o powiększeniu rodziny, co – w przypadku osób mieszczących się w jej obszarze – uznawane jest za normalne.

Biogram autora

Magdalena Wojciechowska - University of Lodz, Poland, Faculty of Economics and Sociology, Institute of Sociology, Department of Sociology of Organization and Management

Magdalena Wojciechowska, Ph.D., is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Sociology of Organization and Management, Institute of Sociology, Faculty of Economics and Sociology, University of Lodz. Her research interests lie in the studies of members of marginalized social groups.

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