Maintaining Boundaries: Masculinizing Fatherhood in the Feminine Province of Parenting

Orlee Hauser

doi:10.18778/1733-8077.11.3.06

Authors

Orlee Hauser University of Wisconsin Oshkosh, U.S.A.

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.18778/1733-8077.11.3.06

Keywords:

Fathering, Paternal Identity, Hegemonic Masculinity, Parenting, Boundaries

Abstract

Today’s fathers are more involved with childcare than the generations that preceded them. There is evidence to suggest that men consider fatherhood and their relationships with their children as more important than ever before. Still, society generally deems the activity of “parenting” as feminine. Thus, men who choose to identify with hegemonic notions of masculinity have few pre-existing father identities to choose from. I argue that fathers actively masculinize their parenting in order to protect their masculine identities. I use qualitative methods to examine the different approaches that they take to conciliate their actions as fathers with their identities as men. They do so by stressing different areas of importance when it comes to parenting, by adding masculine elements to their fathering activities, and by staying away from parenting activities that are generally marked by society as feminine.

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Author Biography

Orlee Hauser, University of Wisconsin Oshkosh, U.S.A.

Dr. Hauser is an associate professor of Sociology at the University of Wisconsin Oshkosh. Her research interests began with an investigation of women’s roles in the Israeli Defence Forces and have since moved into the realm of parenting, exploring the roles and consequences of maternal and paternal identities. She has published in Political and Military Sociology: An Annual Review, Qualitative Sociology Review, Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, The Jewish Journal of Sociology, and Sociological Focus (forthcoming).

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